Isi it gay if you like things up your ass
DEAR READERS: I’m off this week. To tide all of your steamy and/or kinky and/or sore asses over, here’s a column I wrote 15 years ago. Some newer readers might’ve missed this column when it originally appeared—some of you who were still in grade school, diapers, or amniotic sacs back in 1998—so I’m rerunning it now because I still receive questions about “gerbiling” on a daily basis.
QWe were having a little office debate about “gerbiling.” How does it work? Do all male lover men do this? Does Richard Gere? Does the animal get shoved up the anus with a toilet paper roll only to suffocate seconds later? Is it the scratching or the act of killing an animal that gets people off? Why? Can’t this cause intense damage? What gives? —Curious Coworkers
AEvery day, my mail contains at least three questions about “gerbiling.” In the eight years I’ve been writing this column, I have never addressed the gerbil issue, but now, this week and this week only, I am breaking my silence. Clip and store this column, for I will never discuss gerbils again. Ahem. To commence, I would like to make a controversial statement:
I have ne
For anyone who does not know, the label “Bottom,” refers to a human who participates in passive anal sex. A “Top” is the active participant. There are many men who take to bottoming like a duck to water, never have and issue or injury and would not understand what all the fuss is about. On the other hand, there are many men who are drawn to experience of bottoming who cannot achieve their goals quiet so easily.
There are two main issues connected to bottoming. Firstly, how do I make ready for anal sex? Secondly, how do I maintain clean down there so I won’t soil myself and my partner. Both are very valid concerns and discussed a lot in the community.
The general rule of thumb when preparing to bottom is to start small and work up in a consistent and graded way. Any unnecessary muscle tension in and around your pelvis is unhelpful. Construct sure you are relaxed and almost in a meditative relaxed state before starting to physically dilate your anal canal. Save your breathing deep and slow and relax your abdominals.
Two very effective methods of anal dilation are the Self Massage Method and the Dilator Plug Method.
The Self Massage Method was the subject of a recent study a
Would you describe yourself as douche-curious? Perhaps you’ve been douching for a while but are looking for pointers. However seasoned you are at putting things up your butt, there’s always something new to learn! So we’ve deposit together a beginner’s guide to anal douching with everything you need to know when you want to begin squirting down below. 😉
What is anal douching?
Douching is the act of shooting a jet of warm water or a saline answer into the rectum to clean it out before sex. Douching uses several types of devices to achieve this, each referred to as a ‘douche’. We’ll cover these in more detail below.
Some people may instead use what’s known as an enema for douching. These are medical devices designed to relieve constipation and are not recommended for douching, as they often reach with a medicated solution to soften stools or apply a far greater volume of liquid than is required when preparing for anal sex.
Should you douche?
That’s up to you! Whether you douche or not is entirely up to the individual.
Many guys like to douche because it reassures them of no surprises when it comes to hooking up. But for those who keep a fibre-rich diet and swallow plenty of
A reader has a question about putting a marker stylus up his bum. I say, ‘please don’t, it’s not safe.’
hi,my name is L*** and im a 14 yr old boy and like masterbation. Sometimes i like to get a minuscule bit kinky, one of the ways is anal penetration, but i am not gay, i like girls but i guess i’m just curious on how it feels to them. I use a marker pen to exploit instead of you know what it’s has no sharps edges etc. What length in size and diameter should i get that maximises the pleasure and safe for penetration. and a serious question if a e.g 14 yr old young man had a condom and had sex with a teen is it secure, thank you
Like with all questions I get, I’ll cure both questions seriously and give you a proper answer.
It’s fine to be into masturbation and it’s fine to enjoy anal penetration (for whatever reason). But, please don’t put a marker pen up your bum. As I’ve discussed here and here, marker pens aren’t safe to use in the vagina but they are also really not safe to use up your arse. Why? Because you can misplace it up there. True story.
The anus has very robust muscles surrounding the opening (sphincter) and the colon. Ever tried holding a fart i
A finger in the bum can make you cum, a finger in the bum is so much fun.
If you've clicked on this article you're either curious about anal fingering, a fan of butt play or a massive Dr. Seuss fan, and in that case I'm sorry.
Let's be real, over the past few years, ass play has grow a pretty popular item on the menu. But if you're not keen on doing anal, or eating someone out - using a finger can be a great way to ease into it.
Also for guys or people with prostates it can apparently be one of the best orgasms of your life, all thanks to a lil' nugget of gold called the prostate aka p-spot.
Who knew digging for treasure could open a world of pleasure?
Here's what you told us...
You realize we love an research here at The Connect Up so, we asked you on our Instagram if you liked a finger in the bum during sex, and 46% of you said you loved it. We also asked cis straight men specifically if they were into it and over half of you said yes. BUT nearly 60% of you said you were too embarrassed to ask for it.
Here's what some of you dm'd us saying:
- Zac from Naarm, Melbourne - I started experimenting on my own with it, and t