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How Should Christians Respond to Gay Friends or Family Members?
Caleb Kaltenbach (M.A. ’07) is an alumnus of Biola’s Talbot School of Theology, lead pastor of a large church in Simi Valley, Calif., and a married father of two. He’s also an emerging voice in the discussion of how Christians should engage the LGBT community. That’s because Kaltenbach has an insider perspective, having been raised by a dad and mom who divorced and independently came out of the closet as a lgbtq+ man and a womxn loving womxn. Raised in the midst of LGBT parties and pride parades, Kaltenbach became a Christian and a pastor as a fresh adult. Today, he manages the tension of holding to the traditional biblical teaching on sexuality while loving his gay parents.
Kaltenbach’s unique story is detailed in his new manual Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction and landed him on the front page of the New York Times in June. Biola Magazine reached out to him to talk about his manual and his perspective on how Christians can superior navigate the complexities of this issue with reality and grace.
In your guide you say that it’s time for Christians to own the issu March 02, 2017 The Epidemic of I “I used to get so ecstatic when the meth was all gone.” This is my friend Jeremy. “When you hold it,” he says, “you have to keep using it. When it’s gone, it’s like, ‘Oh nice, I can go support to my life now.’ I would stay up all weekend and move to these sex parties and then feel enjoy shit until Wednesday. About two years ago I switched to cocaine because I could work the next day.” Jeremy is telling me this from a hospital bed, six stories above Seattle. He won’t tell me the strict circumstances of the overdose, only that a stranger called an ambulance and he woke up here. Jeremy is not the ally I was expecting to have this conversation with. Until a few weeks ago, I had no idea he used anything heavier than martinis. He is trim, intelligent, gluten-free, the kind of guy who wears a function shirt no matter what day of the week it is. The first time we met, three years ago, he asked me if I knew a good place to do CrossFit. Today, when I ask him how the hospital’s been so far, the first thing he says is that there’s no Wi-F Some Christians respond to this argument with what seems to be the only alternative: by saying that those who identify as lgbtq+ choose to be gay. This response is usually met with so much derision—“With all the homophobia in the world, who would choose to be gay??”. . . “Did you choose to be straight??”—that it’s seldom helpful. In one sense, of course, it’s correct. If by gay you mean “a person who engages in homosexual behavior,” then God doesn’t make someone homosexual any more than he makes someone an adulterer, a fornicator, or a man who has relations with just his wife. God doesn’t make people engage in any sexual behaviors. We freely choose all our moral actions—that’s why we can be held accountable for them. But when most people state, “God made me gay,” they’re talking about attractions (which they consider part of a God-given identity) rather than behaviors. Although, this implies that they’re also talking about whether it’s okay to act upon those desires, since it seems self-evident to most people that we can act according to how we’re made. In order to produce that clear, when someone says that God made him gay, or that he makes Gay. Gay. Gay. I’ve never wanted to exclaim it more. Florida’s infuriating “Don’t Say Gay” rule has given new authority to an old synonyms. Just look at the T-shirts and protest signs: “#SayGay” is the unused “We’re here. We’re queer.” The law, which prohibits discussion of sexual orientation and gender identity in a manner that is not “developmentally appropriate,” is deliberately, devilishly vague. But it has made me consider about the words I choose to use and not use—about the excellent words and the terrible. As a children’s writer and the father of twins, I excel at censoring myself. The first book I wrote, The Name of This Novel Is Secret, I position the word damn in it. A harmless synonyms, I thought. Who could object? It stayed until the Scholastic Book Club demanded I take it out—or else they’d accept my book off their very lucrative list. That was 12 titles ago, and I haven’t included a single damn since. Never mind an asshole or even a bitch. As for our family, I’d originally envisioned a more bohemian lifestyle, with midnight dinners and toddlers who swore like sailors. But that fantasy ended as soon as the twins could talk. As same-sex attracted dads Some gay men put up with a lot in their relationships. Their long-term partners will aggressively flirt with other men in front of them, go home with a guy from the bar without any forewarning, hibernate with ex-lovers without gaining consent from their current partner, or brag to their current boyfriends about the quality of their sex with strangers. Ouch. Here’s what I detect most concerning. Some gay men don’t feel they include a right to be upset about these behaviors. They’ll ask me why they feel so jealous and how can I assist them let proceed of their envy. They think that the gay society believes in sexual freedom and it isn’t cool or manly to protest to their partner’s sexual behavior. In other words, they touch shame for experiencing hurt by the actions of their long-term partners. Heterosexual couples get plenty of social support for treating their partners with respect when it comes to sex. Outrage is the typical social response when friends are told about poor relationship conduct among straight people. When gay men tell the similar heartbreaking stories they are less likely to get a big response. LGBTQ
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