40 and gay

Monthly 40+ Gay Men’s Chat

July 14th, 5:00 pm (Pacific)
Topic: Coming Out Adv In Life & Mixed Orientation Marriages

August 18th, 5:00 pm (Pacific)
Topic: Virtual dating Right Vibes - Is Your Vibe limiting you?

Friday, September 5th, 6:00 pm (Pacific)
Special Edition - Naked Truths - The Unzipped Conversations

This special edition of 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Chat is all about dropping the act and unzipping our desires, fantasies, and realness of who and what we desire as male lover men - come to life!

No, it’s not an online orgy (sorry, fellas—we’ll keep it respectful). But it is a bold, safe space to distribute whatever’s rising up inside you—emotionally, erotically, spiritually, or otherwise.

Craving connection?
Want to unpack that fantasy?
Need to state something out loud that’s been hiding in the shadows?

Come as you are—or come dressed in what makes you feel most alive: leather, mesh, shirtless, or your favorite hoodie. Just bring your reality, your curiosity, and your open-hearted self. No assessment. All connection.

September 22nd, 5:00 pm (Pacific)
Topic: Out, Late In Life, Now What?...Open Discussion

October 20th, 5:00 pm (Pacific)
Topic: The In's and Out's of Gay Cu

Gay Relationship Advice: Age Gaps in Same-sex attracted Relationships

Many of my LGBTQ counseling clients ask me why they are only attracted to queer men younger than themselves. If you are happy digital dating gay men in their twenties, then this question is not important. It’s like asking “Why do I select blondes over brunettes?” My advice is to let yourself enjoy dating whomever interests you (as long as they are over the age of 18).

Age gap relationships are more common than you may recognize. In western countries:

1 out of every twelve male/female couples has an age gap of 10 years or more
that number increase to 25% in male/male couples
and 15% of female/female relationships

That similar study indicated that age gap partners are more satisfied and more involved to each other than partners of similar age–though there is some analyze that points to a correlation with higher rates of divorce. Research also shows that couples with an age gap of less than ten years are happier than those with an age gap greater than ten years. You can locate more details on these stats on this episode of the podcast I Love You Too, by Psychotherapist, Virtual dating Coach, Couples Counselor Jessica Engle,

Your Gay Psyche is a Temple Where Your Super Comes Alive – Cory Schneider

What if your anxiety wasn’t something broken—but an invitation? In this episode, I’m joined by the incredible Cory Schneider (LMFT, SPHR, CDE), a homosexual therapist and leadership coach who brings serious depth to the conversation around identity, mental health, and healing. We talk about how we’re living in an anxiety generation—where everything from our phones to our trauma histories is working overtime on our nervous systems. Cory unpacks how slowing down, tuning in, and learning to trust your gay psyche (yes, that deep, intuitive voice inside you) is more powerful than trying to hustle your way to peace. If you’ve ever felt like your anxiety is running the show—or like you’re too “sensitive” for this world—this one’s for you. You’ll learn: Why anxiety isn’t your enemy—it’s a message How our nervous systems are in constant fight-or-flight mode Why your queer inner knowing is sacred (and how to listen to it) This isn’t about “fixing” yourself. It’s about coming home to the you that’s already whole. About Cory Cory Schneider, LMFT, SPHR, CDE (he/him) is a nationally commended LGBTQ+ psychothera

It’s 2024: “Wow, you really got thick since the last time I saw you.”

Just before, I’d been in a good mood, walking from my office to the subway, planning my meal in my head. Most nights, even when I get residence late, I try to cook, both because I enjoy cooking, and because delivery seems to hold doubled in cost (How is a Chipotle Burrito Bowl suddenly 40 bucks?) and because home-cooked meal, I know, is beat for my body.

Here, in front of me, on the sunny sidewalk is a poet I know; he lives on the West Coast and I haven’t seen him in two or so years.

Since I last saw him, I have put on weight. I’m 41 now, and all through my 30s, the gym five times a week, eating decently and walking up and down the stairs to the subway granted me the type of body I never imagined for myself. It felt odd and complicated if only because it was my already bad and deteriorating mental health that pushed me into the gym to begin with.

Is he giving me a compliment? Does he prefer me like this? Thick? Is he being cruel?

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40 and gay

Last updated on July 22nd, 2021 at 06:06 pm

Regardless if you’re just out of a long-term relationship, navigating co-parenting with your previous boyfriend , or focused more on career than love, Lesbian Virtual dating in your 40’s isn’t much other than dating in your 30’s.

What HAS changed, is the world around us.

In just a several years, the grow of lesbian matchmaking app apps has changed how queer women find other women. From OKCupid, HER, Bumble, Tindr, The League Zoosk, Clover, and several more, lesbian dating apps are compelling women of all ages to create a profile and launch browsing. As a CEO of a lesbian matchmaking agency who spends much of her hour working on ways to bring the women together, I love this!